Hey Yall,
Happy new year. I know I'm a little late but it still counts right. Any who over winter Holiday i heard some disturbing news, yet again another rapper/ public figure reinforcing feeling of inferiority on black women. Little Wayne and members of his camp were rumored to have said something to the effect that they preferred lighter women over dark skin amongst many other heinous statements. Now if this is true I have one thing to say.....
Who gives a flying fuck what Little Wayne and young money have to say about us.Most of them probably don't know where these feelings come from or sadly they don't care. We were programed to believe that we ( and i mean everyone apart of the African diaspora) were inferior in every way from looks to intelligence. Even though many scientific, artistic and cultural movements in America were created by us. Part of the reason why we as a people are not further along is because of the divisions set up during slavery, One that had the most impact was Color.
I personally believe that color issues are more intensified amongst Black women than our male counterparts.Also the pressure to fit our standard of beauty is just as ridged as the European standard. But if one does fit the standard they should not be faulted.The thing is its all bullshit. No one can tell you you are more attactive because you are light skin. No one should have the power to determine if you are less down because you have a yaki flowin down your back. You are the master of your mind. You let in things and there fore you have the power to them out.
It really disturbs me that people still have color preferences, especially in dating. I'm guilty of it. Back in the day I remember saying" I can't date a light skin man, they're too pretty." Or guys who approach my friend who happens to fit the black man's fantasy," you're my type , you are light skin with long hair" Not you're my type you are independent, you graduated from college at the age of 20, you are ambitious, etc. Or another favorite i hear" you are pretty to be dark skin" Is being dark skin a handicap? Is being Light skin a privilege? I guess i was lucky i never have had too fight the battle of being call "White, octroon, Nigga White, Black Cat, smut or spot"
I remember when my sister was getting her Master's, some guy told her point blank he had a color limitation on what his wife would look like. Leaving her out. I think i was too young to understand how hurtful this must have been to her and many other women. To be told you will never be good enough in someones eyes , most hurtful of all that someone is your brother.Or being told by your sister that you are a wannabe. All it does is tear us down and apart. I'm seriously through with this shit I hope it is through with me and I pray that color-ism is expelled from my mind and eventually our culture. I don't want to pass this bull shit down to my children that lie stops here and now.
We are all beautiful because God made us.
Pray for me and you to,
PBLG
